If you get married with Japanese women,
or if you have a girlfriends of Japanese.

At first, you'll receive the culture shock.
and you have to understand the process for international marriage.
Because you aren't surprised, when you confronted the issue, Please learn to the trouble of often happens.

For instance,
When you and your partner go to lunch.
You might say : "What do you want to eat?"
She might say : "Feel free to choose" or "As you like".

Sometimes, They don't say their opinion.

and When you try to go to the Noodle shop, they might think it to be dissatisfied.
Yes, they said "Feel free to choose". But their "Feel free to choose" isn't real their opinion.

They fear that they are treated like "selfish person" by the some person.
So they feel difficult to speak their opinion.
Sometimes, Japanese women's "Feel free to choose" isn't "Feel free to choose".

I think that:
They don't think "Feel free to choose" really,
Their "Feel free choose" meaning include that "If there is a good idea for you, I agree it to some degree."
At first, they need your opinion.

Could you understand?

This is a part of Japanese culture.
"TATEMAE & HONNE" ( Two face).

In after chapter, I'll write this.
You need not understand everything.
You should understand her, and she should understand you.
The important things, The couple can talk about their opinion in consideration of partner's country culture.
For good relationship, you need the environment that the couple can talk a small thing also.

This is easy for many country people, but It's difficult for many Japanese.

I'll write the following.
 -Two face (HONNE & TATEMAE)
 -AUN-NO-KOKYU
  (a Partnership in which someone can make himself understood to another one without conversation)
 -They say "Yes", "No", "the other.."
 -Our marriage is for parents?
 -Language
 -Religion

To be continued...